Unworthy & Undeserving vs. Self-Accepting

Zone 10 – Note A – Navel: Unworthy/Undeserving vs. Self-Accepting

Pelvic Region: Belief /Identity

The belief that an individual is undeserving of love may lead to the perception or reality that one’s love is rejected. The absence of self-love may also result in self-defeating behaviors which obstruct the ability to acquire physical comforts and achieve goals whose attainment would conflict with this subconscious belief of unworthiness.

These beliefs may lead to hyper-achievement as the individual attempts to justify self-value through accomplishment. The individual may experience feelings of guilt and blame, and have difficulty bonding with others emotionally and mistake physical intimacy with love and connection. The individual may consciously have high self esteem and remain unaware of this subtle undercurrent.

Such beliefs may stem from neglect, abuse or separation from mother or other caretakers at birth or during early childhood, insufficient attention and nurturing, and generational patterns of dealing with such issues.

The impact of this stress may cause weak digestion, addictions, and problems with weight, small intestine, thyroid, and reproductive organs (particularly in females).

An individual’s healthy connection to his or her mother and a deep sense of worth allows the individual to receive nurturing and to accept themselves in a balanced, healthy way. This nurturing affect can also be provided by a strong, healthy relationship with another caring individual, and through self-nurturing practices.

The ability to be emotionally intimate with others, set boundaries, and experience appropriate guilt provides a foundation for healthy relationships.

Awareness:

I am undeserving of love.

I lack self-love.

I am unworthy.

I am unlovable.

I am not good enough.

I do not deserve _____. (fill in the blank)

I am not lovable because _____. (fill in the blank)

I have to _____ to be loved. (fill in the blank, e.g., be perfect, do everything right, etc.)

I am guilty of _____ and deserve to be punished. (fill in the blank)

I am bad because _____. (fill in the blank)

I am ashamed of _____. (fill in the blank)

I just want to be loved for who I am.

Transformation:

I am worthy of love.

I am lovable.

I love myself.

I accept myself.

I forgive myself.

I am worthy of _____. (fill in the blank)

I am good enough.

I do not have to be perfect to be loved.

I am lovable because _____. (fill in the blank)

I do not have to _____ to be loved. (fill in the blank)

I am not guilty of _____ and do not deserve to be punished. (fill in the blank)

I am good because _____. (fill in the blank)

I am proud of _____. (fill in the blank)

I just want to love myself for who I am.

To learn more about improving self worth, see the below references.

Related content:

The Power of Self Care/Self Love: A Physical Therapists Guide to Evolving Into Your Higher Self  by Jackie Castro-Cooper

This book is one of a kind! The Power of Self Care/Self Love is a practical guide that helps you understand the importance of self care and self love, and provides tips and techniques for incorporating these concepts into your life.

The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman

Gary is a world-renowned relationship expert, and in this book he talks about how to love yourself and others in a way that is meaningful to them.

*This is one of twelve zones which are identifiable through a process of neurofeedback called Vocal Mapping (aka ZYTO EVOX). During a session you can speak about any topic while the software analyzes your voice for changes in emotional intensity. The changes are then used to generate a feedback loop and a report which identifies which of the twelve zones are most imbalanced. A typical session can last 20-45 minutes.